I have always enjoyed reading these types of posts, it is nice to hear what others have picked up over there 20 or so years of living. For everyone, growing up differs and we all learn and grow in our own individual ways but I’m sure one thing we can all agree on is that growing up ain’t so easy and there’s a lot of learning curves along the way!
For me, I have learned a lot in my twenty years of life, I have made many mistakes and faced many struggles, but I don’t regret any of it because as cheesy as it sounds it really has made me the person I am today and I quite like the person I have become if I’m honest, because, hey, it’s important to love yourself and for me it took a while to get there and I do have my off days, but I quite like the ‘me’ I have become!
So today I bring you 10 things I have learned throughout my 20’s and although I have learned wayyyy more than 10 things and I could ramble on for hours, I’ll just keep it at that for now…
1. Not everyone has to like you.
For so long I felt I had to please everyone, if someone didn’t like me I tried everything I could to convince them otherwise, until I started to learn that there was just no point wasting my energy on these people, you don’t have to be everyone’s cup of tea, it’s the people who you love most that matter.
2. You are the best you, so embrace it.
I remember in primary school I admired this girl so much I wanted to be just like her, she used to wear high ponytails to school so I did the same so I could be just like her and from there on in over the years I imitated others I admired while losing touch of myself until I realised I could never be just like them and I never needed to be because there was the best version of me, never before seen ready to break through.
3. It is not embarrassing to hang out with your parents, it is inspiring!
I am lucky to have such a close relationship with my parents, especially my dad, he’s like a best friend in a dad, but when I was in school people would make fun of me for ‘hanging out’ with my parents all the time and it really put me down and made me feel embarrassed to be seen out with them. Fast track twenty years and I have people tell me how they wish they didn’t care what others had thought and spent more time with there parents before it was too late.
4. If you leave your hair alone your natural hair will flourish!
Oh boy was I rough to my hair when I was younger, all that straightening, spraying, dying and cutting, I owe it all to my hair for sticking by my side! I wasn’t until I stopped using all this heat and chemicals on my hair that my natural curls came through and I began to love my natural hair!
5. Don’t waste so much of your time drinking and partying
Not to say I didn’t have some awesome times partying but the over excessive drinking and partying just becomes a huge waste of time and way too repetitive, don’t let FOMO (fear of missing out) get the best of you go do something more worthwhile with your time, go catch a movie or grab a nice dinner out, the drinking cultures not disappearing anytime soon so you don’t have to drink like its running out of fashion!
6. A small group of close friends is much better than having loads of acquainted friends.
If I had spent less time worrying about pleasing everybody and trying to be everyone’s friend I would have had more time to spend making the best of memories with my closest best friends!
7. You don’t have to have it all figured out yet.
Rearing the end of my colleges years there was this wave of pressure that came over me. The pressure to know what I wanted and what I was going to do, but I didn’t know what I wanted, I didn’t even know how to pay taxes let alone what path I wanted to go down in life. And it really didn’t matter, I still don’t really know what I want but now that I put less stress on myself I have found that I am learning more and more about myself and what I want every day and I’m no longer willing to settle into anything just because of those pressures because good things take time and I’m going to make sure I create the best life for me no matter how long it takes!
8. Things will get easier but they will also get harder too.
Growing up, I really struggled, I almost didn’t even make it to the age of 16, life had got the better of me. I thought things would never get easier and that I would never get stronger, but it did and I am much stronger than I was back then. The things I struggled with at a young age I had finally overcome, but as I got older I was faced with new challenges but this time I was able to take them on with endurance because it was those hard times that helped to shape me as the person I am today and I can overcome any obstacle life throws at me!
9. Don’t waste your money on useless things.
The day you receive your first lot of change from the tooth fairy or your first bit of pocket money can be very exciting times, money doesn’t hold so much purpose to you at that point so spending it at the dairy on lollies each time isn’t a problem. But as you continue to grow and spend all your given or earned money on pointless junk you will regret it in the later years when you wish you had spent wisely and saved at least a little bit. Now in saying that money isn’t everything and you shouldn’t let it control your life but it pays to be wise with your money from day dot which will then pay off (hah see what I did there) in the future.
10. Don’t let the judgment of others stop you from living your best life.
Throughout my school years, I let the opinion and judgment of others stop me from doing the things I truly wanted to do. I wasn’t until I broke free from those limiting fears that I began to live my best life. I will never forget the day I decided to sing solo in a school play in front of my whole school I was so terrified of what people would think but once I was up on that stage everything around me turned into a blur and I went out and killed it on that stage and it was the best thing I ever did! Plus people LOVED it, all my fear was shoved aside when people I thought with judge me became inspired by me and some even applied to join the school show next year to do what I had done!
Growing up comes with its many ups and downs but everything happens for a reason and you just have to take it all as it comes.
Let me know in the comments what are some of the key things you learned growing up, let’s get chatting!